This prayer to overcome insecurity and lack of confidence will help you claim God’s strength and support when you are feeling self-conscious, uncertain and inadequate.

Prayer to Overcome Insecurity and Lack of Confidence

Father, I come to You in prayer as Your child.

Please help me as I am wrestling with insecurity and lack of confidence.

I am feeling self-conscious, uncertain, and inadequate.

I also struggle with:      

  • Acceptance
  • Depression
  • Anxiety  
  • Feelings of unworthiness
  • Fear of rejection
  • Fear of disapproval
  • Fear of failure 

These are the specific times and situations where I feel most insecure and fearful ____________________

Father, help me overcome insecurity by knowing who I am and whose I am. Your Word tells me about your extravagant love for me as your child. Please give me eyes to see and ears to hear this truth about your love:

See what kind of love the Father has given to me, that I should be called a child of God.

I am a child of God, and that is who I am!

Please help my lack of confidence by realizing I belong to the King of kings and Lord of Lords, the Creator of all the earth.

Father, I don’t have to feel self-conscious and inadequate because You tell me I am beloved by You.

Please help me understand that a good, good Father dearly loves me.

And please help me to overcome insecurity by understanding that I am safe and protected by You.

You promise me in your Word,

 Never will I leave you, never will I forsake you.

Father, help me know that I can trust your heart when I can’t see your hand.

Father, I no longer need to feel self-conscious because you are proud of me. I no longer need to feel inadequate and unworthy because your Son died to make me worthy.

Father, thank you for showing me who I am. Thank you for showing me you have already accepted me.

I pray I will no longer feel uncertain and fearful, which leads to chaotic, racing thoughts. Please calm my anxious heart to experience freedom from depression and anxiety.

Father, thank you for showing me I am safe in your care. I pray that understanding I am safe will free me from fear of rejection, disapproval, and failure.

Father, please help me to rest in your love. Help me believe you when you tell me you are with me and that you are mighty to save.

Please quiet me with your love so my mind and body can experience rest as I claim the following promise from your Word,

The LORD your God is in your midst, a mighty one who will save; he will rejoice over you with gladness; he will quiet you by his love; he will exult over you with loud singing.

Father, as I realize who I am as your beloved child and that I am safe in your tender care, I now crawl up on the back of my heavenly Daddy as I claim the following promise:

 Let the beloved of the LORD rest secure in him, for he shields him all day long, and the one the LORD loves rests between his shoulders.

Father, as I leave my prayer closet, please help me continue applying these truths I have prayed for today.

Please help me rest in you when the cares and concerns of the world assault me.

Please help me find Christian friends and prayer support to help me on my journey to overcome insecurity and lack of confidence.

Please help me be patient with myself as I realize these patterns are hard to break.

Father, please show me if I need professional counseling to help me get to the root cause of my insecurity.

Father, I cast out all shame and release self-consciousness and replace them with confidence in You.

Thank you for your goodness to provide professionals or laypeople to come alongside me and help me on my journey to freedom.

In the name of your beloved Son,

Amen

Bible Verses to Claim and Trust when You Are Feeling Insecurity and Lack of Confidence

See what great love the Father has lavished on us, that we should be called children of God! And that is what we are! (1 John 3:1 NIV)

Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid or terrified because of them, for the Lord your God goes with you; he will never leave you nor forsake you. (Deuteronomy 31:6)

The LORD your God is in your midst, a mighty one who will save; he will rejoice over you with gladness; he will quiet you by his love; he will exult over you with loud singing.

(Zephaniah 3:17 ESV)

Let the beloved of the LORD rest secure in him, for he shields him all day long, and the one the LORD loves rests between his shoulders. (Deuteronomy 33:12)

Common causes for insecurity and lack of confidence

Experts have shown that three of the most common causes of insecurity are:

1) Past rejection due to some failure.

2) Social anxiety due to past bullying or exclusion from a peer group.

3) Being driven by perfectionism.

One way to overcome insecurity driven by past failure is to realize that you are not alone.

Many great men and women have all experienced failure of some type. It is essential to continue to get out and engage with life. Get feedback and counsel from ones you trust. Then remember your identity as a beloved child of a good, good Father and press on toward your goals.

One way to overcome insecurity causing social anxiety is to address any wounds from past bullying or times you felt excluded. Fight back against your inner critic by meditating on God’s Word. And remember, you are safe and secure in God’s love. Then you can interact with others without fear of rejection, knowing God already accepts you.

One way to overcome insecurity driven by perfectionism is to remember that it’s more about progress and excellence. Remember, you no longer need to strive to prove yourself because God already approves you. As you remember who you are and that you are safe, you can break up with perfect and take time to rest in God’s embrace.

My Personal Experience with Insecurity and Lack of Confidence

I wrestled with insecurity and lack of confidence for many years. Even when I was serving as a pastor’s wife, Bible study teacher, and women’s ministry director, I didn’t realize I was finding my identity in the approval of others. The endless striving brought me to a place of complete spiritual, physical, and emotional exhaustion.

When I finally decided to see a therapist, she helped me address unhealed wounds from my past. This helped me overcome feelings of uncertainty and inadequacy. She helped me realize I was not living as one who was secure in my Heavenly Father’s love. And helped me see I was stuck in the approval trap.

Through counseling, prayer, and the study of Scripture, I learned to replace the lies I had believed with the truth of whom God tells me I am.

As the founder of Securely Held Ministries LLC, I help women overcome insecurity by breaking the power of other people’s opinions. I then invite them to rest securely in God’s embrace.

I am currently under contract and writing a book on this subject, titled: Securely Held: Finding Significance and Security in the Shelter of God’s Embrace.

I have a free resource on my website to help you overcome people-pleasing caused by insecurity. You can find it at: www.CherylLutz.com.

Please let me know how I can come alongside you on your journey to freedom!

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About Cheryl Lutz

Cheryl Lutz is an author, inspirational speaker, lay counselor, and founder of Securely Held Ministries LLC. Her mission is to help women break the power of other people's opinions and find rest in the security of God’s embrace. Cheryl is a “retired” pastor’s wife. (Her husband Alan has transitioned to a full-time teaching ministry.) They are currently snuggled in a quaint cabin in the North Georgia Mountains. They have four adult children and a bonus son by marriage. Cheryl is a proud Mimi to her oldest daughter’s dog and youngest son’s cat!