Comparing yourself unfavorably to others can harm your faith, discourage you and separate you from others. This prayer will help you stop comparing yourself to others by helping you understand your unique importance in God’s family.
Stop Comparing Yourself to Other Christians Prayer
Dear God, It seems like when I compare myself to others I don’t measure up. It makes me feel like I don’t belong and I don’t feel very worthy.
Here are the things that are bothering me: I feel like in comparison, others are better than me in these ways __________________
Please help me overcome this as I meditate on the following truths.
Believing God makes me worthy
I’m being lied to by the devil who wants to make me feel like I don’t belong to God or I don’t belong in Christ’s church. He wants me to feel like I’m not as good as or not as worthy as others.
Here are my answering thoughts about this __________________
Right now, when I see others who seem to be better than I am in some virtue, I feel intimidated and like I don’t measure up and I’m inferior to them.
Uncovering the things I feel I’m not as good at
Here are some virtues or skills others have that I feel like I’m behind in when it comes to faith: (ask God which apply to you)
Knowing more about the Bible than I do ________________
Being able to say better sounding prayers than I do ___________________
Being more patient than I am _________________________________
Being more loving than I am __________________________________
Doing more mission work, witnessing etc. than I do __________________
Not having as many bad habits, behaviors and past mistakes to overcome as I do _______________
Please plant a new thought in my mind to counteract this lie. Here is a new affirmation:
It can be a good thing to aspire to be more like Jesus. When I see someone who is father along on their spiritual journey than I am, I can be inspired by them instead of intimidated by them.
We are all at different stages of our faith journey and when I see people who seem to be farther along than I am, I can use it in a positive way by aspiring to improve my own spiritual life.
God, please bring someone to my mind who can be an inspiration to me and a living example that it’s possible to know more about you, to have more faith and trust and live a more holy life ______________
Finding Aspiration Goals
Here are some aspirational goals in the Bible I can claim and pursue: (ask God to highlight any to you that apply to your life today)
Self- discipline: Then Jesus said to His disciples, “If anyone wishes to come after Me, he must deny himself, and take up his cross and follow Me. Matthew 6:24
Loving like Christ loves: A new commandment I give to you, that you love one another, even as I have loved you, that you also love one another. By this all men will know that you are My disciples, if you have love for one another.” John 13:34,35
Letting my light shine: In the same way, let your light shine before others, that they may see your good deeds and glorify your Father in heaven. Matt. 5:16
Keeping Christ’s commandments: “If you love Me, you will keep My commandments. John 14:15
Christlike character: Blessed are the meek, those who hunger and thirst after righteousness, who are peacemakers, who are merciful, who are pure in heart and who are persecuted because of righteousness. Matthew 5:5-10
Having a servant’s heart: So he sat down, called the Twelve, and told them, “If anyone wants to be first, he must be last of all and servant of all.” Mark 9:30
Serving: For we are God’s handiwork, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do. Ephesians 2:10
As I ponder where you want me to grow today, I am comforted that when you called the disciples, you didn’t choose people with experience, skills or learning. You chose average people like me. And You didn’t wait until they were ready. Instead You said, “Follow me, and I will make you fishers of men.” Matthew 4:19
Help me cling to this verse every day.
First, let me follow you, Jesus, not other people.
Secondly, let me allow you to provide me with the help and grace I need. I claim the power of the phrase “and I will make you.”
As I repeat this phrase “I will make you,” remind me that Jesus is the one who will equip, teach, prepare and give me the graces I need, even if I don’t think I have much to offer right now compared to other people.
I trust that you will make me ________________________
Affirming I am an important part of the body of Christ
God, please help me to believe that I have a position in the body of Christ. I belong and I have spiritual gifts to use.
Challenging the lies I tell myself that I’m not important
First, help me to challenge the lies I tell myself that because I am not in a highly visible leadership position that I am not an important part of in the church.
I meditate now on this truth from the Bible:
I Corinthians 12:12 – 20
The body is a unit, though it is made up of many parts; and though all its parts are many, they form one body. So it is with Christ. For we were all baptized by one Spirit into one body – whether Jews or Greeks, slave or free – and we were given the one Spirit to drink.
Now the body is not made up of one part but many. If the foot should say, “Because I am not a hand, I do not belong to the body,” it would not for that reason cease to be part of the body.
And if the ear should say, “Because I am not an eye, I do not belong to the body,” It would not for that reason cease to be part of the body.
If the whole body were an eye, where would the sense of hearing be? If the whole body were an ear, where would the sense of smell be?
But in fact, God has arranged the parts in the body, every one of them, just as he wanted them to be. If they were all one part, where would the body be? As it is, there are many parts, but one body.
I now form my personal affirmation based on this truth: Although I am not a __________________, that doesn’t mean that I’m not an important part of the church. Thank you that although I’m different than other parts of the church, I have gifts to use.
Challenging the lies other people tell me about my importance
Secondly, help me challenge the lies that other people tell me that I’m not an important part of the church. I meditate on the following truth from the Bible:
The eye cannot say to the hand, “I don’t need you!” And the head cannot say to the feet, “I don’t need you!” On the contrary, those parts of the body that seem to be weaker are indispensable and the parts that we think are less honorable we treat with special honor.
And the parts that are unpresentable are treated with special modesty, while our presentable parts need no special treatment. But God has combined the members of the body and has given greater honor to the parts that lacked it, so that there should be division in the body, but that its parts should have equal concern for each other.
If one part suffers, every part suffers with if one part is honored, every part rejoices with it. (I Corinthians 12: 21-26)
I now form a personal affirmation based on this truth: Although ________ has told me or acted as if I am not much of an asset to the church or I am of less importance than they are, I affirm that they are wrong and are untruthful. I am in fact an equal to all in the church in my importance. When someone causes me to feel less worthy, the whole church suffers and isn’t as strong.
Appreciating my spiritual gifts that might be different than the gifts of others.
God, I affirm that you give me and every other Christian supernatural spiritual gifts to use to build your church and your kingdom. Mine may be totally different from others, but that doesn’t make them less effective or important.
I now meditate on your truth:
Now you are the body of Christ, and each one of you is a part of it. And in the church God has appointed first of all apostles, second prophets, third teachers, then workers of miracles, also those having gifts of healing, those able to help others, those with gifts of administration, and those speaking in different kinds of tongues.
Are all apostles? Are all prophets? Are all teachers? Do all work miracles? Do all have gifts of healing? Do all speak in tongues? Do all interpret? But eagerly desire the greater gifts.
And now I will show you the most excellent way.
If I speak in the tongues of men and of angels, but have not love, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal. If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have faith that can move mountains, but have not love, I am nothing. If I give all I possess to the poor and surrender my body to the flames, but have not love, I gain nothing.
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. If it not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes and perseveres. I Corinthians 12:27-31; I Corinthians 13:1-7
God, help me find and use my spiritual gifts. And as I use my gifts, help me always do it with your love. Here is a gift I think you have given me _________________________________
Here is a place you seem to be leading me to serve ________________________________
Thank you that you made us to be together in Christian churches and groups. Please continue to make me vigilant against the lies that would keep me from joyfully and faithfully serving as a part of your body. I am honored that you have so honored me to choose me to my unique play in your Kingdom.
About this Stop Comparing Yourself to Other Christians Prayer
I spoke with a woman who asked me to pray with her because she felt out of place in an adult Sunday school class because everyone else seemed to know so much more about the Bible than she did.
As I remembered the last class session, I saw how new people might be intimidated. When the teacher asked a question, 3 or 4 class members immediately and spontaneously compared and contrasted it with other Bible verses. Later, the teacher mentioned in passing the story of the woman at the well and members jumped in and spoke to the details of the story without needing to read it.
Yes, we indeed seemed to have some Bible knowledge super stars in our class!
My friend got me to thinking about times I had felt not-nearly-enough in comparison to others in Christian groups. One in particular was when I visited a prayer group where participants prayed out loud with unbridled passion and responded with fervor and emotion to powerful words being put together by the members. I felt uncomfortable because I felt like their prayers were much better than mine. Other times I have felt inadequate around theology professors, missionaries and people from developing countries who rely on their faith for everything.
My friend caused me to meditate on what to do when we feel uncomfortable and wonder if we belong because of what we’re not.
This prayer is the result of my search for answers to this question.
Scriptures to claim to Stop Comparing Yourself to Other Christians
There is one body and one Spirit – just as you were called to one hope when you were called – one Lord, one faith, one baptism; one God and Father of all, who is over all and through all and in all. Ephesians 4:4-6
From him the whole body, joined and help together by every supporting ligament, grows and builds itself up in love, as each part does its work. Ephesians 4:16
How great is the love the Father has lavished on us, that we should be called children of God! And that is what we are. I John 3:1
So do not throw away your confidence; It will be richly rewarded. Hebrews 10:35
At that time the disciples came to Jesus and asked, “Who is the greatest in the kingdom of heaven?” He called a little child and had him stand among them. And he said, “I tell you the truth, unless you change and become like little children, you will never enter the kingdom of heaven. Therefore, whoever humbles himself like this child is the greatest in the kingdom of heaven.” Matthew 18:1-4
For you crated my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother’s womb. I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; you works are wonderful, I know that full well. Psalm 139:13,14
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