When praying about the person that you will someday marry, don’t be afraid to ask God for specific traits or characteristics that you are looking for in a spouse.  My wife Kelly and I prayed for each other long before we met.  We prayed for each other in specific detail.  Kelly prayed for a spouse with blonde hair, blue eyes and a love of music.  I prayed for someone who would love me and the children with an unconditional love.

Is it really that easy?  Is prayer that simple?  Yes.  God wants to hear from you.  He loves you and wants you to have joy in your life.  God orchestrated things so that a divorced dad from Texas met a single teacher from Baltimore in the Carpathian Mountains of Romania.  He orchestrated this meeting so that our prayers would be fulfilled and God could fill our lives with the joy that comes in being married to someone who loves Him first.

I believe that every married couple has “a story”.  Mine is in the previous paragraph.  I wonder what story God has for you?  Start writing your story today with a prayer about your future spouse.

A prayer for a future spouse after divorce.

“Father, I know that You have a plan for my life.  I know that part of that plan is someone to walk with me each day until you take me home.  You know me, and You know my likes and dislikes.  I ask that You provide someone with who is ___________ and someone who enjoys ______________________ with me.  I know this is a small detail, but it will help show me you are listening.   May this person be someone who ferociously pursues You and Your will for our lives.

You know that I need someone who is _____________ to go with my ______________.

Show me the person who will put You first, guard my heart, and will not give up when life gets rough.

(If you already have children)

Father, I ask that you provide someone who would love (Insert child or children’s names) as I do with an unconditional love that only comes from You.  I pray that the children would love __________ back and accept her/him into our family.”

“Father, right now I am so wounded.  I have been rejected by the one I pledged to love until death parted us.  I don’t know why this happened, and I don’t understand how a marriage could fall apart and You not reach out to save it.  I know that You still love me.  I know that You said in Genesis 2:18 that it was not good for a man to be alone.  You created a helper for Adam, and Father I need a helper as well.

Please take the fragments of my heart, I know some pieces are missing, and put it back together again so that one day I may love again.

Father take my anger, my bitterness and negative feelings I have toward __________, my former spouse.  Please give me the strength to prevent these feelings from creeping into any future relationship I have with ________.

I ask that you show me when to date again, and who to pursue.  May this person be in love with You first.  May our lives reflect Your goodness and grace.”

My Personal Experiences and Tips

I mentioned at the beginning of this article that Kelly prayed quite specifically for hair and eye color.  This wasn’t so much her asking for a “sign” that God answered in detail as it was a confirmation that God heard her prayer…hair color, eye color and all.

It also demonstrates that Kelly was indeed an answer to my prayer about wanting someone special in my life who ferociously pursued God.  I fell in love with Kelly because of her heart for God.  It showed that she knew and trusted God long before she and I knew each other.  Once again God showed that His promises are true:

But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things will be provided for you.”  (Matthew 6:33, HCSB)

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